Babywise Resources on Sale

Does anybody need a refresher on the Babywise principles? Are you ready for the next book in the series? Do you want to see how the Growing Kids materials are different from the (secular) Babywise books?

Well, you’re in luck! They’re all on sale!

Amazon has many of the books for sale in their bargain section. On Becoming Babywise Book 2 is on sale for $3.98 and On Becoming Childwise is on sale for $4.98! Check out all the Babywise bargain books!

If you’re interested in the Growing Kids God’s Way materials, go to the Growing Families International website to take advantage of their Christmas sale. My favorite resource, the Growing Kids God’s Way workbook, is on sale for $16.10. This book has many of the principles outlined in Childwise, but I feel like it’s a little more organized and is much more comprehensive. Check out the GFI store to see all of the GKGW materials, all on sale. The GFI home page has a note discussing all the materials that the Ezzos are currently working on or have completed this year, including the new Nap App!

As I write this, I thought I’d check the Mom’s Notes website to see if any of their materials are on sale. I’m not seeing any sale prices, but I just discovered that Joey and Carla Link (producers of the Mom’s Notes) have written a new book! It’s called Why Can’t I Get My Kids to Behave? Seeing as how I just discovered it, I can’t vouch for it personally, but I do like and agree with most of what the Links say about parenting and the Babywise principles. If anybody has read this book, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Happy book shopping!

Use behavior as your guide

Do you ever question your parenting methods? What parent doesn’t? Do you and your spouse disagree on what methods of correction to use? Perhaps one spouse is more lenient than the other? If you find yourself questioning your methods, your spouse’s discipline approaches and even the books you read, I have a simple answer:

Use your child’s behavior as your guide.

It’s so simple. If you don’t like the way your child is behaving, change your methods! If you like the way your child is behaving, see it as an affirmation that you are doing something right.

As much as we may hate to admit, we as parents must take full responsibility for our kids’ behaviors. Children have parents because they need authority figures who will guide and direct their hearts and actions. There is that little thing called free will that affects how a child will respond to his parents. But for the most part, we have great influence over how our children act and think.

If one parent complains to the other about being too strict or too lenient, then both parents need to observe the child. Our children figure us out faster than we figure ourselves out. The lenient parent must watch the child as he responds to his directives. Does the child obey the lenient parent? The strict parent must watch the child to see if he shows any signs of exasperation.

True, it’s difficult to do this with complete objectivity. Perhaps you can turn a video camera on yourself as you interact with the child. Watch it after the heat of the moment has dissipated and when you can watch it objectively. Or bring in an objective third party (friend, grandparent, etc.) who can offer their insight about how your child responds to your parenting methods. Some of my most prized parenting advice has come from friends or relatives who make simple observations about how my methods don’t seem to be working.

Years ago, a friend was visiting and watched as I gave William a timeout in our timeout spot in the family room. She commented on how he didn’t seem to care. I had gotten so mired in getting him to stay in that spot, and actually felt quite pleased with myself that he would sit obediently, that I forgot to evaluate the timeout for its effectiveness. By that point, William had stopped caring about sitting in the timeout spot in the middle of the family room. After reading a book or two and evaluating our methods, I realized that in order for a timeout to work, it needed to be away from the family. The child needed to be isolated!

If you determine that you need to change your methods, do your research. Read the parenting books and blogs. Identify the method you think will affect your child. Work with your spouse to define your new discipline plan. Write your new plan down. Then see how it works! Give it some time before making any critical judgments. But after few weeks (depending on how chronic the behavior is), you will be able to determine the new method’s effectiveness. If that method isn’t effective, move on to the next one.

Now, I’m not suggesting you flip-flop your methods on a regular basis. After all, consistency plays a huge role in parenting. But if you have noticed that a particular tactic or thought process isn’t giving you the results you want, then by all means, change it. Don’t stick with a method that isn’t working only for the sake of consistency. Doing the wrong thing over and over will never make it right.

The next time your child misbehaves, stop and think. Evaluate your methods based on your child’s behavior and never be afraid to try something new.

Welcome!

Welcome to Childwise Chat! I have started this blog to offer parenting advice on the Ezzo principles (as discussed in On Becoming Childwise and other books) and to help my friends and family understand exactly why I do what I do with my kids. The pages at the links above are a great place to start reading. Your supportive comments are highly encouraged. Enjoy!