As promised, here is my discipline plan. You’ll notice that it’s fairly simple and straightforward which is what you want. You don’t want a discipline plan that’s so complicated it’s hard to be consistent.
Discipline plan goals
As discussed in my last post about creating a discipline plan, here are my goals with my discipline plan:
- Start with my kids’ worst and most chronic behaviors
- Choose discipline methods that teach a lesson and that aren’t hard for me to follow through with
- Be specific in describing the behavior and the discipline method
- Post it in an accessible place (my kitchen)
- Make it a living document. I have a huge white board in my kitchen and I can very easily revise the discipline plan as needed.
My discipline plan
Here’s how it is written on my white board:
William (age 5)
- Misbehavior: Intentionally hurt your brother.
- Discipline: Immediate timeout for at least 10 minutes, followed by apologies to Lucas and mommy.
- Misbehavior: Snatch toys from your brother.
- Discipline: I take the toy (and all others like it) away for at least 24 hours.
- Misbehavior: Slow in cleaning up after roomtime
- Discipline: I take those toys away until he can show me better obedience. All of his Legos are currently sitting on my dresser and will probably stay there for a few days.
Lucas (age 2)
- Misbehavior: Throw food or silverware from highchair.
- Discipline: Immediate timeout, followed by clean up and apologies to mommy.
- Misbehavior: Whining and fussing.
- Discipline: Verbal reminder to be happy while withholding whatever he wants.
Notes for mom and dad
At the bottom of my discipline plan, I include reminder notes for my husband and myself. These notes address our weaknesses and help us remember how to fairly and effectively discipline our kids.
Mommy: Follow through the first time!
Daddy: Stop repeating and call their names first!
Is this it?
You may wonder if this is the extent of the discipline that goes on in our home. Certainly not! There are several other misbehaviors and discipline methods that go on in our home, but these misbehaviors are not chronic enough that I need to include them in my discipline plan. If they go on for any length of time, I will add them to our plan. But remember, one of your primary goals in creating a discipline plan is focusing on just two or three misbehaviors so you can effectively and consistently address them. Keep it simple!
Take the time to create your discipline plan and see how it can help keep you focused.